Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
There is no doubt that the one who angers his parents,
disobeys them or treats them badly is in serious danger and is exposed to a
severe warning.
An-Nasaa’i (2562) narrated that Ibn ‘Umar said: The Messenger
of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There are three
whom Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, will not look at on the Day of
Resurrection: the one who disobeys his parents, the woman who acts in a
masculine manner, and the cuckold. And there are three who will not enter
Paradise: the one who disobeys his parents, the one who is addicted to
alcohol, and the one who reminds people of what he has given to them.”
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in
Saheeh an-Nasaa’i
At-Tirmidhi (1905) narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: The
Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There
are three supplications that will undoubtedly be answered: the supplication
of one who is wronged, the supplication of the traveller and the
supplication of a parent against his child.”
Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in
Saheeh at-Tirmidhi
Ahmad (24299) narrated that ‘Amr ibn Murrah al-Juhani said: A
man came to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and said:
O Messenger of Allah, I bear witness that there is no god but Allah and that
you are the Messenger of Allah, I offer the five daily prayers, I give
zakaah and I fast the month of Ramadan. The Prophet (blessings and peace of
Allah be upon him) said: “The one who dies in that state will be with the
Prophets, the siddeeqs and the martyrs on the Day of Resurrection like
this”– and he held up his two fingers – “so long as he does not disobey his
parents.”
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Targheeb,
2515
Secondly:
If a person falls into this sin or is exposed to the stern
warning, or falls into any other sins, that does not mean that all his good
deeds are invalidated, because invalidation of good deeds is a specific
punishment that cannot be spoken about on the basis of one’s opinion or
analogy. Not everyone who commits a sin or a major sin will have his
righteous deeds that he has done rendered invalid. Rather nothing renders
righteous deeds invalid altogether except shirk or associating others with
Allah, and there is no text that suggests that disobeying parents is one of
the actions that renders good deeds invalid, whether completely or to some
extent.
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked:
If a person is disobedient towards his parents, will his
prayers, fasting and charity be accepted from him?
He replied:
Disobedience towards parents is a major sin and a serious
haraam action that must be avoided, but disobeying them does not render
prayers, fasting or other righteous deeds invalid. However the one who does
that is in danger because of this grave major sin. Good deeds are only
rendered invalid by shirk. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of
the meaning): “But if they had joined in worship others with Allah, all
that they used to do would have been of no benefit to them” [al-An‘aam 6:88].
As for disobedience towards parents, severing ties of kinship and other
sins, they do not render good deeds invalid; rather good deeds are rendered
invalid by major shirk. Similarly, raising one’s voice towards the Messenger
of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was something that led
to fear of cancelling out one’s good deeds during his lifetime, as Allah,
may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “O
you who believe! Raise not your voices above the voice of the Prophet (SAW),
nor speak aloud to him in talk as you speak aloud to one another, lest your
deeds may be rendered fruitless while you perceive not” [al-Hujuraat 49:2].
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All of this applies if we assume that the son has behaved
badly towards his father or has done something that has made his father
angry with him.
But if the father is the one who has wronged his son, or he
is angry with him for no justifiable reason, then the matter is more clear
and it is less likely that his good deeds will be rendered invalid or that
he is exposed to the warning.
For more information please see the answer to question no.
147374 and
107241
And Allah knows best.