Praise be to Allaah.
The sharee’ah of Allaah
contains rulings that are in the best interests of people in this world and
in the Hereafter, because it is a law that was revealed by the Creator of
mankind, Who knows what is good for them and what is bad for them. But the
reason behind the laws may or may not be apparent to everyone. The believer
is enjoined to submit and accept the laws of Allaah because that is a
requirement of his faith in Allaah as his Lord and God. So when discussing
with a kaafir, the aim should first of all be to explain to him the meaning
of this faith and the importance of submitting to the will of Allaah, then
after that one may speak about the reasons behind the laws.
With regard to this
particular question we say:
Allaah, may He be
glorified, has created mankind and made them of two genders, male and
female, and He has given each of them its own characteristics which are
suited to the role that each of them has to play in this life. Men have
roles and tasks that women cannot do, and women have roles and tasks that
men cannot do.
If that is the case, then
it is perfectly wise to prepare each gender in a way that helps them to play
the role that is required of them.
It is well known that gold
is something with which people adorn and beautify themselves, but a man is
not meant to do this, i.e., he is not a person who may be perfected by means
of adding something, rather a man is perfect in and of himself, because of
his manhood, so he has no need to adorn himself for some one else that he
may like, unlike women. A woman needs to adorn herself so as to make herself
attractive to her husband, thus creating a bond between her and her husband.
Hence it permissible for a woman to adorn herself with gold and other
things, so that the man will be attracted to her and seek her, and the
purpose of marriage will be achieved, which is the propagation of the human
species. Being brought up with adornments and softness is only appropriate
for women; as for men, it is something blameworthy in their case. Hence
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“(Like they then for
Allaah) a creature who is brought up in adornments (wearing silk and gold
ornaments, i.e. women), and who in dispute cannot make herself clear?”
This is summary of what the
scholars have said in response to this question, as was mentioned by Shaykh
Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa
Because gold and adorning
oneself with it are things that are suited to the nature of women and the
role for which they have been created, it is obviously wise for it to be
forbidden for men to imitate women in that. The great scholar Ibn al-Qayyim
(may Allaah have mercy on him) said in I’laam al-Muwaqqi’een
Similarly the prohibition
on gold and silk for men is decreed so as to block the means that may lead
to men imitating women. End quote.
One of the strange things
that we see nowadays is many young men adorning themselves by wearing gold
chains and the like, and they even put makeup on their faces. This is
contrary to the fitrah (sound human nature) and to the masculinity and
resolve which should be the characteristics of men. Hence you will not find
any wise and serious man doing that, rather they are either perverts or
those who are lacking in character, time-wasters who are trying to fill the
gaps in their character or fill their time by doing that.
And Allaah knows best.