Praise be to Allaah.
The matter is broad in
scope. She may say the words that suit her (i.e., the feminine form) and say
Ana amatuka (I am Your female slave), or she may use the wording of
the du’a’ that is narrated, because it is describing the person who is
speaking, and may apply to both male and female.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn
Taymiyah was asked about a woman who heard in the hadeeth “Allaahumma
innee ‘abduka wa’bnu ‘abdika, naasiyati bi yadika (O Allaah, I am Your
slave, son of Your slave, my forelock is in Your hand)” and she persisted in
using this wording. It was said to her: Say “Allaahumma innee ‘amatuka
bint amatika … (O Allaah, I am Your female slave, daughter of Your
female slave…)” but she insisted on reciting it in the wording that she had
been using. Was she right or not?
Rather she should say “Allaahumma
inni amatuka bint ‘abdika ibn amatika (O Allaah, I am Your female slave,
daughter of Your (male) slave, son of Your female slave). That is more
appropriate. But if she says ‘abduka ibn ‘abdika, then it is
acceptable in Arabic usage, like the word zawj (spouse) which may be
applied to both male and female. End quote.
Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn
Ibn Hajar al-Haythami (may
Allaah have mercy on him) said in al-Fataawa al-Kubra (5/342):
A woman may say in sayyid al-istighfaar and similar du’aa’s: Wa ana
amatuka bint amatika (I am Your female slave daughter of Yourfemale
slave) or bint ‘abdika (daughter of your male slave). But if she says
ana ‘abduka (lit. I am Your (male) slave), that is acceptable in
Arabic usage, like the word shakhs (person) which may be used for
both male and female. End quote.
Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn
Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked about this and he replied: The
matter is broad in scope, in sha Allaah, but it is better for her to say
Allaahumma inni amatuka wa’bnatu ‘abdika wa’bnatu amatika (O Allaah, I
am Your female slave, daughter of Your male slave, daughter of Your female
slave), and so on. This is more appropriate and more befitting for her. But
if she says the wording that is narrated in the hadeeth, that does not
matter in sha Allah, because although she is amah she is also ‘abd,
one of the slaves of Allaah (‘ibaad Allaah). End quote.
Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn Baaz
And Allaah knows best.