Praise be to Allaah.
For information on the steps involved in a
correct marriage contract, please see Question no.
With regard to having a wedding party in the
Islamic manner, you have to keep away from the things which are forbidden in
sharee’ah but which many people do not pay attention to during celebrations,
such as the following:
With regard to the woman: going to a male,
non-mahram hairdresser to have her hair done; or adorning herself in ways
that are haraam, such as thinning the eyebrows by plucking them, or wearing
tattoos, or wearing hair extensions, or other kinds of haraam things,
because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed the
one who plucks eyebrows and the one who has that done, the one who adds hair
extensions and the one who asks to have that done; imitating the kuffaar in
their dress, because usually the wedding dress shows many of the woman's
charms and her body, in such a way that the dress is very revealing - we
seek refuge with Allaah – and also a great deal of money is wasted on the
Among the haraam actions that have to do with
the man are: shaving his beard for the wedding night, which is done on the
grounds that this makes him look more handsome, but this is something which
is haraam according to sharee’ah; letting one's clothes hang below the ankle
There follows a list of haraam things which
both men and women should avoid in the wedding party:
1- Mixing of men with women, and things that
are involved in that, such as greeting and shaking hands with one another,
and men and women dancing together, because all of that is haraam and is a
very serious matter.
2- Taking pictures, whether men do that
amongst themselves or women do that amongst themselves.
3- Drinking alcohol or eating pork.
4- Letting the husband come in to where the
women are in order to take his wife.
5- Women wearing revealing, tight or short
clothes amongst themselves, because this is haraam – so how about wearing
such things in front of men?
6- People should avoid spending extravagantly
or going to extremes in showing off in wedding parties, because that may
wipe out the blessing.
7- The husband and wife exchanging rings and
thus imitating the kuffaar, thinking that this will increase the husband’s
love for his wife and vice versa.
Finally, both partners should know that the
more the teachings of Islam are followed in the wedding party, the more
blessed their marriage will be, the more love and harmony there will be
between them, and the less problems they will encounter in their married
life. For if the married life is based from the outset on haraam things
which go against the commands of Allaah, how can they expect the marriage to
be successful after that? There have been many marriages in which there were
things that went against the commands of Allaah, and they did not last. Fear
Allaah with regard to this party and keep it free of things that are
forbidden in Islam. May Allaah bless you both. We ask Allaah to give you and
your husband strength. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.
And Allaah knows best.