Praise be to Allaah.
The fiancé or husband has no right to ask about his wife's
past. It is sufficient for him that she is righteous and is known for good
at the time of marrying her, and there is nothing wrong with her religious
commitment or chastity. As to whether she did anything haraam in the past,
but then repented from it and became righteous, it is wrong to ask her about
that and make her choose between telling lies or getting divorced, or make
her tell her secrets and disclose that which Allaah had concealed for her,
then if she tells him the truth, that opens the door to doubt and
What some people call for, of each spouse being frank with
the other and telling them of things in the past that Allaah has concealed,
is wrong and ignorant. Rather they should be pleased that Allaah has
concealed it and they should praise Allaah for it.
A wife or fiancée is not obliged to tell us what happened in
the past that Allaah has concealed. Rather she must conceal herself, because
the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Avoid this
filth that Allaah has forbidden. Whoever does any such thing, then let him
conceal it with the concealment of Allaah.” (Narrated by al-Bayhaqi; classed
as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, no. 663).
And Muslim (2590) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be
pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon
him) said: “Allaah does not conceal a person in this world but Allaah will
conceal him on the Day of Resurrection.”
If her husband or fiancé persists in asking, then she may use
a double entendre, such as saying: Nothing happened between me and that man
-- meaning that nothing happened today or yesterday, because she is enjoined
to conceal it and there is no interest to be served in telling him. So it is
prescribed for her to use a double entrendre, and in fact some scholars said
that it is permissible to tell a lie in that case. For more details on that
please see the answer to question number
Based on that, we hope that there will be no sin on you
because of the lie that you told, although it would have been better to use
a double entendre.
If a man says to his fiancée: You will be haraam to me after
the wedding if you concealed anything from me, then she conceals something
from him, she will not be divorced and no zihaar will take place, because
divorce and zihaar can only take place after marriage, and the fiancé is
saying this before the marriage contract has taken place. So no divorce or
zihaar takes place.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: It
should be noted that divorce can only take place after marriage, because it
is the dissolution of the marriage bond. So before marriage there is no
divorce. Even if a man says to a woman: If I marry you, then you are
divorced, then he marries her, she is not divorced. Or if a man's wife said
to him: I heard that you want to take a second wife and I do not agree to
that, and she put pressure on him, and he said to her: Will you be pleased
if I say that if I marry a woman, she is divorced? And she said: I am
pleased with that, then he said it and did not get married, and if he did
get married she would not be divorced, because that took place before the
marriage. End quote from al-Sharh al-Mumti’ (13/7).
We ask Allaah to accept your repentance and to set your
And Allaah knows best.