Praise be to Allaah.
We praise Allah for your recovery from waswaas, and we ask
Him, may He be glorified, to complete His blessings and grace to you.
Social phobia is a kind of psychological disorder, that has
its causes and ways of treating it; it varies in its degree and intensity.
What this suitor has mentioned about difficulty in being
alone with a woman and so on, all comes under the heading of the symptoms of
Our advice to you is not to go ahead and marry this suitor
until he has recovered from this illness, or it is apparent that he is only
suffering mildly from it. This can be found out by asking his friends and
neighbours, and the people at his mosque. Your guardian should ask about him
and find out about that, and also ask this suitor about the stages of this
illness and his treatment, and he should also check with the doctor who is
in charge of his treatment, if possible.
It is important that his looking to get married be based on
his desire and need, and it should not be in response to pressure from his
family or anyone else.
We ask Allah to decree happiness, guidance and well-being for
And Allah knows best.