Praise be to Allaah.
It is proven that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah
be upon him) forbade men to imitate women and women to imitate men.
It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with
him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)
cursed men who imitate women and women who imitate men.” Narrated by
al-Bukhaari, 5885.
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with
him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)
cursed men who wear women’s clothing and women who wear men’s clothing.
Narrated by Abu Dawood, 4098; classed as saheeh by Shaykh
al-Albaani (may Allah have mercy on him).
It says in al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah, 11/268: There is
no difference of opinion among the fuqaha’ that it is haraam for men to
imitate women in their movements, soft speech, adornments, clothing and
other things that are exclusively theirs according to custom or nature… Ibn
Daqeeq al-‘Eid gave as a guideline on what it is haraam to imitate them in
as being whatever is exclusively theirs, whether it is the thing itself or
the way it is made or the fact that it is more commonly made for women, and
the converse is also true. End quote.
See also the answer to question no.
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Secondly:
It does not mean that something is not the kind of imitation
that is haraam if there are people who wear the item concerning which there
is the fear of it being imitation in a certain country or at a certain time.
It is very rare to find none of it at all. Rather what may take it out of
the category of being haraam is if it becomes widespread in that particular
place, and it becomes commonly practised and like a custom, without anyone
objecting to it, to the point that the one who does it is no longer regarded
as odd, and people of dignity and decency would not refrain from it.
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
at-Tabari said: What is meant is that it is not permissible for men to
imitate women with regard to the garments and adornments that are only for
women, or vice versa.
I say: This applies to ways of speaking and walking. As for
styles of clothing, that may vary according to the differences in customs
from one land to another. There may be some people who do not differentiate
between the clothing of their women and their men, but the women are
distinguished by observance of hijab and covering.
End quote from Fath al-Baari, 10/332
In the commentary on al-Qawaa’id al-Fiqhiyyah by
Shaykh Sa‘d ibn Naasir ash-Shatri it says: Custom (al-‘urf) in any
country must meet certain conditions in order for it to be acceptable in
sharee‘ah. The conditions for custom are four:
The first condition is that the custom should be consistent
and widely practised; it should not be inconsistent because if it is
inconsistent and not widely practised, it is not called custom. This is what
they expressed by saying: What counts is what is widely known and practised,
not that which is rarely practised. End quote.
In al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah (30/58) it says: What is
important with regard to custom is that it should be consistent or widely
practised. What is meant by consistent is that the custom is ongoing and
persists so that it does not disappear in different situations. What is
meant by widely practised is that it is done a great deal, and is not done.
That is because consistency and being widely practised proves that the
custom is definitively well established and well known. As-Suyooti said: It
is regarded as a custom if it is consistent; if it is not consistent then it
is not regarded as a custom. End quote.
With regard to the necklaces that you asked about, it is not
known in your country (Saudi) that this custom is consistent, and it is not
widely practised among men without any objection; rather hardly anyone does
it except effeminate men and their ilk, or those who imitate women or
evildoers. So it is not permissible for you to wear it for that reason.
See also the answer to question no.
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And Allah knows best.