Praise be to Allaah.
We ask Allaah to make things easier for you.
This misery that you are
feeling is nothing more than whispers from the shaytaan (waswaas) who keeps
tries to find opportunities to mislead the believer until he causes his doom
in this world and in the Hereafter.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Secret counsels
(conspiracies) are only from Shaytaan (Satan), in order that he may cause
grief to the believers. But he cannot harm them in the least, except as
Allaah permits. And in Allaah let the believers put their trust”
[al-Mujaadilah 58:10]
Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan Ibn Sa’di said (p. 785):
“in order that he may cause grief to the believers”
this is the purpose of his plots. End quote.
The sincere believer is able, by the strength of his faith
and his trust in his Lord, and his acceptance of what Allaah has decreed for
him, to overcome everything that makes him unhappy or worried.
Your situation is easy. Allaah has given you the opportunity
of long nights in which you may fulfil your desire with your wife, and
during the day you can keep busy with reading Qur’aan, doing good deeds,
visiting brothers, taking care of household needs, and attending halaqahs
and lessons. You can organize your time in this manner, and it will all be
good, in sha Allaah.
You may also touch your wife without having intercourse, so
long as you are confident that you will not do anything haraam.
See question no.
49614 and 20032.
You do not have any concession allowing you to have
intercourse with your wife during the day in Ramadaan, rather you must
beware of that, for the month of Ramadaan is very sacred and it is not
permissible to violate that sanctity by breaking the fast with no excuse
such as travelling or sickness. Whoever breaks the fast during the day in
Ramadaan by having intercourse has committed a grave sin for which a severe
expiation must be offered, which is described in questions no.
1672 and
49750.
And Allaah knows best.