Praise be to Allaah.
The one who wants to stop himself showing off has to do
the following things to rid himself of this problem:
He should remember that Allaah is always watching His slave.
This is the status of ihsaan (perfection in worship) which Jibreel (peace be upon him) mentioned to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), which is
that you should worship Allaah as if you can see Him, and even though you cannot see
Him, He can see you. (Narrated by Muslim, 97).
When a person feels that Allaah is always watching him,
what other people think will become insignificant, and this will make him respect and fear
only Allaah.
Seeking the help of Allaah to rid himself of the habit of showing off.
Allaah says that the believers should say (interpretation of the meaning):
You (Alone) we worship, and You (Alone) we ask for help (for each
and everything) [al-Faatihah 1:5].
One of the things that will be of benefit in this matter is seeking the
help of Allaah and calling upon Him. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: O people, beware of this shirk (form of polytheism), for it is more subtle than the
footsteps of an ant. The one whom Allaah willed should speak said to him, How can we
beware of it when it is more subtle than the footsteps of an ant, O Messenger of
Allaah? He said, Say, Allaahumma innaa naoodhu bika min an nushrika
bika shayan nalamuhu wa nastaghfiruka limaa laa nalam (O Allaah, we
seek refuge with You from knowingly associating anything with You, and we seek Your
forgiveness for that which we do unknowingly).
(Narrated by Ahmad, 4/403; classed as saheeh (authentic) by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami, 3731).
Knowing the effects of showing off and how it will be judged in the
Hereafter.
Not knowing this leads to one falling into this sin or persisting in it.
One should realize that showing off destroys all one's actions (i.e., cancels out the
reward), and that it brings the wrath of Allaah. The wise person does not waste his energy
in doing things that do not bring any reward, let alone deeds that bring the wrath and
anger of Allaah.
One of the greatest ahaadeeth (prophetic narrations)concerning the punishment in the Hereafter of those who show off is the following, in which the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
When the Day of Resurrection comes, Allaah, may He be blessed and
exalted, will come down to judge between His slaves, and every nation will be kneeling.
The first ones to be called forth will be a man who learned the Quraan by heart, a
man who fought for the sake of Allaah, and a man who had a lot of wealth. Allaah will say
to the Quraan-reader, Did I not teach you that which I revealed to My
Messenger? He will say, Yes, O Lord. He will say, What did you do
with that which I taught you? He will say, I used to read it night and
day. Allaah will say to him, You have lied, and the angels will say to
him, You have lied. Allaah will say, Rather you wanted it to be said
that So and so is a reader of Quraan, and that is what was said. Then the
wealthy man will be brought forth, and Allaah will say to him, Did I not give you
ample provision so that I did not leave you in need of anybody? He will say,
Yes, O Lord. He will say, What did you do with that which I gave
you? He will say, I used to uphold the ties of kinship and give in
charity. Allaah will say to him, You have lied, and the angels will say
to him, You have lied. Allaah will say, Rather you wanted it to be said
that So and so is generous, and that is what was said. Then the one who was killed
for the sake of Allaah (apparently) will be brought forth and Allaah will say to him, Why were
you killed? He will say, I was commanded to fight in Jihaad (battle) for Your sake, so
I fought until I was killed. Allaah will say to him, You have lied, and
the angels will say to him, You have lied. Allaah will say, You wanted
it to be said that So and so was courageous, and that is what was said. Then
the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) struck my knee and
said, O Abu Hurayrah, these three are the first of the creation of Allaah who will
be dragged into the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.
(Narrated and classed as hasan (sound)by al-Tirmidhi, 2382; classed as
saheeh by Ibn Hibbaan, 408, and Ibn Khuzaymah, 2482).
Thinking about the punishment in this world for showing off
Just as there will be a punishment in the Hereafter for showing off, so
too there is a punishment for it in this world, which is that Allaah will expose him and
make his bad intentions known to others. This is one of the interpretations of the hadeeth
of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him):
Whoever shows off, Allaah will expose him.
(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6134; Muslim; 2986).
Ibn Hajar said: al-Khattaabi said, this means: whoever does something
that is not sincerely for the sake of Allaah, merely wanting people to see him and hear
him, will be punished for that Allaah will expose him and make known what he is
concealing.
It was said that whoever does something with the intention of gaining
status and prestige among people, and does not seek the Face of Allaah by doing it, Allaah
will make him the subject of bad speech among the people in whose eyes he wanted to gain
status, and he will have no reward for it in the Hereafter.
(Fath al-Baari, 11/336)
Concealing worship and not making a display of it
The further away a person gets from places where his worship can be
seen, the safer he is from showing off. Whoever looks for places where people gather, the
Shaytaan makes him keen to show off his worship so that they will praise him for it.
The acts of worship which should be hidden are those which are not
obligatory or those in which it is not the Sunnah to do them openly, such as Qiyaam al-Layl (night prayer), and giving charity, and the like. This does not apply to calling the Adhaan (call to prayer),praying in congregation and other things which cannot and should not according to
shareeah (Islamic law) be hidden.
We ask Allaah to make our words and deeds sincere, and to forgive us for what we commit of showing off. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.